Somehow
Somehow
I’ll bet this has happened to you, too. You’re going along, happy go lucky and suddenly things fall apart. Not only that, but people are blaming you. You have a bewildered look – What did I do? I didn’t do anything. Why is he/she/everyone looking at me?
Here’s a variation – unfortunately just as common. You’re the boss and you make a decision, but the person or people carrying out that decision fail in its implementation (notice how delicately I put that.) Sadly, the blame falls on you. The decision was correct – you know that – but because of him/her/them it failed and you’re on the hook. Innocent and convicted.
I’m going to give you a phrase that can turn that world around. It has taken me forever to learn it – and it works wonders. It’s not necessarily a public phrase, but one for you to think to yourself and it will lead to whatever you then say or do. Here it is: “Somehow I must be responsible.”
Notice I said, responsible, not to blame. The domain of blame creates a ruinous context, as if you’re morally wrong. Responsibility deals more with cause than guilt. Certainly, when you’re the boss, you are responsible – easy to see, though not easy to take. Look what happens when you take responsibility.
You assert leadership – you are the one. You create a future where change, correction and new results are possible. You relieve the weight from others who, for whatever reasons, can’t or won’t shoulder what seems to them to be a burden. And you will be surprised at how often and how quickly you become supported.
Not only that, but you will discover that you have created new eyes. You can see that – gosh, you really could be responsible – no – you really are responsible. Your view of ‘the facts’ is altered through other’s eyes… ‘Is that what happened?’
Try it the next time you fight with your significant other. The fight will end and love will be restored, even stronger. Can you imagine if you ever said that to your boss?
I’ll bet this has happened to you, too. You’re going along, happy go lucky and suddenly things fall apart. Not only that, but people are blaming you. You have a bewildered look – What did I do? I didn’t do anything. Why is he/she/everyone looking at me?
Here’s a variation – unfortunately just as common. You’re the boss and you make a decision, but the person or people carrying out that decision fail in its implementation (notice how delicately I put that.) Sadly, the blame falls on you. The decision was correct – you know that – but because of him/her/them it failed and you’re on the hook. Innocent and convicted.
I’m going to give you a phrase that can turn that world around. It has taken me forever to learn it – and it works wonders. It’s not necessarily a public phrase, but one for you to think to yourself and it will lead to whatever you then say or do. Here it is: “Somehow I must be responsible.”
Notice I said, responsible, not to blame. The domain of blame creates a ruinous context, as if you’re morally wrong. Responsibility deals more with cause than guilt. Certainly, when you’re the boss, you are responsible – easy to see, though not easy to take. Look what happens when you take responsibility.
You assert leadership – you are the one. You create a future where change, correction and new results are possible. You relieve the weight from others who, for whatever reasons, can’t or won’t shoulder what seems to them to be a burden. And you will be surprised at how often and how quickly you become supported.
Not only that, but you will discover that you have created new eyes. You can see that – gosh, you really could be responsible – no – you really are responsible. Your view of ‘the facts’ is altered through other’s eyes… ‘Is that what happened?’
Try it the next time you fight with your significant other. The fight will end and love will be restored, even stronger. Can you imagine if you ever said that to your boss?
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